Why Self-Love is Hard but Worth It!

 Have you ever looked in the mirror and thought that you aren't good enough? Have you felt ugly? Do also depend on people to keep yourself happy? If you feel these stuffs there is a high chance you're lacking self-love. Yes, that's right. We compare ourselves, dwell on our flaws, and expect perfection. But we forget that everyone is not the same, that nobody's perfect. And self love is not about being perfect,  It’s about accepting yourself, even when it’s hard. And while that journey isn’t easy, it’s one of the most important things you can do for yourself.

You see, Self love isn't a piece of a cake. Trust me I've been there, where I hated myself, where I always felt insecure. But then one day I had enough, I felt like I cried enough, so I decided to change. And doing so wasn't easy, just being able to look at mirror and feel like you are perfect just the way you are is harder than you can imagine but at some point of life changing the way you feel about yourself is very necessary. So today I will share you some tips on how to love yourself with a short story about an incident that taught me how to love myself.

In middle school every thing changed. I became a teenager and that sweet little girl inside me who smiled for no reason became someone who couldn't even smile. I became very depressed and every little things started hurting me. I started loosing friends (some left and some of them were left by me) and I couldn't even open up with the friends I had. So I often went to terrace (my comfort space) and cried. I also started crushing on people and confessed to them because I just wanted someone to love me but they also rejected me which broke my heart even more! Then suddenly in final year of middle school I decided to change and I started choosing myself. I started being there for me because the worst thing anyone can ever do to with their life is to hate it and wish to have better life. 

You will never have a better life until you make it better. And how to have a better live? Simply by being present in your life. That's the basic change to make. Life is not for surviving it's for living and you should realize that. So how to live and not survive? First of all start from somewhere, you will always need a starting point. Then you need to put yourself first before anyone (Make you your first priority), trust me people will come and go, that's not something you can control, but what you can control is whether you choose yourself or not. Learn how to not care about people's opinion towards you because not everyone will like you. How you look at yourself matters more than how other's look at you because you are the main character of your life. So learn how to look at yourself with love. No matter who leaves your life, never leave it alone yourself. Always remember that the inner you needs you and until you are present in her life she won't need anyone else. Learn to let people go and detach from people. Never make anyone the reason of your happiness cause trust me they will hurt you at some point of your life. Instead, learn to be happy in small things and celebrate small wins and progress. Start taking good care of your mental and physical health. Stop comparing yourself with others, remember you are perfect in your own way and there are people who wished to be you. Also remember that everything that happens, happens for a reason.

But before learning how to love yourself you also need to know why self love is necessary! Firstly, it improves your mental health. It helps you grow and improve, it strengthens relationships, etc. So give it a try and trust me you will love the new version of you and one day when you'll look back you would be proud of yourself for choosing to this path.

Lastly a gentle reminder that, Self-love isn’t about being perfect or loving yourself every second of the day. It’s about showing up for yourself, even on tough days. It’s about recognizing that you are enough just as you are. The journey may be hard, but it’s the most rewarding one you’ll ever take.   

What’s one small thing you do to practice self-love every day?